What’s up internet, I’m mike smith and today I want to touch on a subject that’s very controversial. The topic of women showing off their body, whether it be for a photoshoot, a fitness ad, a movie, or simply to post a booty pic to Instagram. What’s acceptable? What’s taking it too far? What kind of judgement do these women face for deciding to show off some skin? Are these women sending a sexual message? Are they sluts? Do they have morals? Or are we just so prude and suppressed as a nation that we don’t know any better than to believe these girls are just being tasteless. I’m diving into all these scandalous questions so don’t go anywhere.
I was born in 1986, raised here in the United States in a conservative Christian home. Sundays always involved starting your day with church, which for me was only exciting because that meant bagels and cream cheese at my favorite deli after having to sit through a boring 2 hour sermon. My mom and dad taught me and my sister what was right and what was wrong, we had a strong sense of morality and solid beliefs. Naturally growing up and getting older we all get urges that battle and question what we’ve been told is right and truthful. For most those questions start with asking Is Santa clause real? How does the tooth fairy know I lost a tooth? Where do we come from? And finally the big question of them all, what is sex? Unsurprisingly as human beings we develop sexual urges, we discover what makes our pee pees tingle and vaginas mingle. It’s natural and as organic as your overpriced food from whole foods. Back in the day when I myself started getting these urges I really had no idea what it meant. The internet was nowhere near as big as it is today and imagining what sex looked like meant turning your head sideways to try and make out what was happening on the scrambled porn channels. I’ll never forget when titanic was released in 1997, I was 11 years old and my friend had went to see the movie with his parents. He told me that there was an incredible scene with a beautiful girl lying on a couch and they showed her boobs. I remember going home and begging my parents to go see the movie with my friends, unfortunately someone had already warned them about this epic titty scene and I was forced to wait for the movie to come out on VHS. This way I would be forced to sit with my parents so they could fast forward the only scene I was interested in watching. Luckily for me my parents mistakenly left me home alone with the VHS and I replayed that titty scene about 100 times before carefully returning it to its blockbuster case. Now honestly did seeing Kate Winslets boobs make me think she was a slut? Did I ever think she would sleep with me?
Did I find her tasteless and immoral for doing this topless scene? No absolutely not, I was a realistic 11 year old. I knew Kate would never sleep with me, I knew she was portraying a character in a love movie, I knew it was no big deal and it was just a pair of boobs. So why did my parents make such a big deal about this? What if they didn’t freak out about this scene, would I have been less obsessed with wanting to see it? I think so. I believe this is where some problems arise. I don’t blame my parents for their decision, they were just following what they had learned and thought was best me. It’s no coincidence that they grew up in the United States as conservative Christians who believe a sexually repressive society would lead to fewer unplanned pregnancies, fewer sexually transmitted diseases, and the high probability that their son would turn out to be an angel who saved his virginity for marriage. Unfortunately none of this is true and when you examine other countries that embrace comprehensive sexual education, pro-gay legislation, have nude or topless beaches, with legal adult entertainment, these tend to be countries that have much less sexual dysfunction when compared to the United States. It’s no wonder movements like free the nipple are growing in size and people are slowly starting to realize…ohhh heyy it’s just a nipple. If you go back to the 1930’s four men were arrested for going topless in Coney Island and men fought against this and only 6 years later in 1936 men going shirtless was the norm.
You see the human body is incredible and if you’re a straight male like myself you’ll most likely agree that the female body is an unquestionably beautiful creation. However women who decide to show off their body are more often judged negatively by others and considered tasteless, demoralizing whores. Now why does a female who works hard to achieve her body and finally builds up enough confidence to show it off in a thong bikini have to be considered an attention craving whore? Our country is filled with body dysmorphic disorder, anorexia, bulimia, depression, anxiety, and do we know why? I’ve personally worked with hundreds of people who would never be caught dead in a bathing suit let alone a revealing photoshoot. Most of the negativity I hear comes from the mouths of people who are insecure with their own bodies, they may be experiencing some jealousy, a little envy, and a case of hateritis. Now don’t get me wrong the world has been using ridiculously unrealistic sexual advertisements to sell us products for centuries and while I do believe we need to start being more positive towards women who embrace their body image, there is nothing I hate more than fake advertisements. Being that I’m in the fitness industry I can’t stand when companies use unrealistic models to sell their shitty products. You know what I’m talking about, you’ve seen these supplement advertisements with girls rocking huge fake stacked tits, lip injections, with skinny little hot dog legs that would crumble and shake like a baby deer the minute a 45lb empty barbell was placed on their fragile back. Now that’s something I have a problem with. I believe we should practice what we preach and being that I own a company in the fitness industry I would never want to hire those kind of models to promote any of my products. Deception is what’s tasteless. Conning other women into believing your amino acid blend will turn them into a skinny big ass, big tittied, beauty is what’s truly immoral. Making men believe your garbage testosterone boosting product that sells for $75 is going to land him a date with a super model is horse shit. I also see a lot of women on Instagram selling booty building programs, 100 squat a day challenges, cleansing kits, and programs that are quite honestly not intense enough to be effective. I also believe falling for these scams is your own fault and you should educate yourself enough to recognize these frauds, but I’ll save that for another video.
Most people in the fitness industry would be completely accepting of a female competing in an NPC bikini competition. Which basically involves getting into a little itty bitty bikini, prancing around on stage under bright lights, and being judged on your body. Those same people who give a thumb up to this sport would point fingers at a girl who doesn’t compete, but enjoys working out and showing off her progress on social media. I’ve heard this girl called an attention whore but the girl leaning over on stage popping her booty out for the judges is considered a respected athlete. Why can’t we respect both of these women and discuss some options to make this a positive journey for both of these females. I’ve always felt that helping others succeed can be your greatest success, so with that being said I believe if you’re a female who has hundreds of thousands of followers because of the way you look, you should probably help give back some useful information. Share your story, show your transformation, be real, show people that you have everyday problems and explain how you deal with them. If you’re going to sell training programs or promote supplements make sure they are programs that are effective and supplements you’ve actually used and enjoy. Now you don’t need to do any of this, it’s simply a suggestion. I just don’t want you to be another one of those girl with baby deer legs and a genetically large ass using hashtags like squat booty and peach gang.
Be real with yourself and your followers if you want to be respected. If you’re a female who just posts sexy photos all day and never offers any advice don’t be surprised when most if not all your attention comes from men who want to sleep with you. However we as men need to realize that because a female is posting sexy photos it doesn’t mean she wants to sleep with us. Don’t get mad when she doesn’t answer your DM’s and don’t call her a whore because she’s not interested in meeting you. I think the biggest takeaway for watching this video is to recognize that your body image is not an important indicator of self-worth. You aren’t better than anyone else because you have a six pack, big boobs, or a curvy ass. There is also no reason to hate on other women who enjoy modeling as a hobby or job. Recognize that taking sexy photos doesn’t make you a slut, sleeping with every guy in your gym makes you a slut. Let’s all re-evaluate ourselves before we judge others and recognize when we are acting jealous or hateful and turn that hate into motivation to becoming a better human being. If you liked this video I’d greatly appreciate if you shared it, clicked the like button, and leave a comment below. You can check out my company’s website at NeverQuitPerformance.com we have an entire apparel series dedicated to spreading our informative uplifting vibes. Uplift is our brand new series of apparel that promotes a positive body image and motivating style. Thanks for watching and don’t forget to click the subscribe button to see my future videos! Later